“Oh u married late ” that’s the line i mostly hear from most of the people around me .. People who don’t know me , people who know me .. everyone makes something of your age and judges you based upon any thing .. and what’s better than a number which apparently tells everyone that you were worthless and a loser for these many years and that’s y u landed getting married at such a late age .. No offence to the people who have decided to marry early .. .. how does it matters if am 23 or 30 when i decide to Marry ..
Marriage was never a Number game for me .. it was for me something which i wanted to do whenever i wanted to .. and i was lucky enough it turned out exactly as i wanted ..
Here to all my friends who are getting stigmatised by the decade old question “when will you Marry ” from my own personal experience.
what if you feel like having hot coffee in the middle of cold night and you are craving for it and your partner is better cosied up in the blanket and snoring beside you ? you have 2 options either he will wake up or you have to sleep..
what would you choose ? our whole life after marriage is choosing between 2 options .. but the question is not about whether we will choose or not choose..
Question is how much you are ready to accept the fact that you are okay with his being inside the blanket or the other way round …. that’s the kind of thing you may want to know before telling the big yes..
Taking time to make a deep dive into Marriage is not always a disadvantage infact it’s so much better and adventurous .. that’s what i’m gonna share here
By the late 20s or 30s we all would have experienced our shares of heart breaks, bad relationships , good relationships and some super boring ones too .. so at that time when everyone around you seems happily settling , marrying or getting into relationships .. we may find ourselves still in search of the prince charming ..
The game becomes tougher .. we may have to kiss a trail of wrong frogs to finally end up kissing our sleeping prince ..to wake him up from his stupid slumber ( of-course we would be angry for taking forever to finally show !!!!) , nevertheless we will meet that special person .. but what i have learnt from my shares of cracked hearts and dry tears(i know it’s too much dramatic!! , i’m dramatic!!) .. that Its Better to date a trail of wrong guys /girls than getting tied down with the person with whom your east is west and well west is east !!
Taking time to finally settle down is wise enough .. it’s never never never (yes 3 times , to have the intended IMPACT :p ) too late or too many ..
A time may come when you would be tired of all this and would decide to just settle down with whomsoever and go with the flow .. but my friend .. try going with the flow where the flow is taking you to unknown lands , unknown adventures .. makes you meet beautiful strangers .. That’s the kind of flow you should let in your life not the other kind .. Marriage is a big deal , it’s not the kind of thing we wanna make mistakes with !! ,Never get tired and settle down ..
Having a previous relationship is not a taboo , Honestly if my guy had told me that he had never had a girlfriend .. i have serious doubts i could ever connect with him the way i do now .. and if you were serious also it shows how deeply you can love .. i think it adds layers to your personality ..after all what is a life without all its layers , colors and stories ?
it’s difficult to understand the feeling of loss unless you have loved and lost someone…when you are a person who was heartbroken and is afraid to again step in the big Game .. yes you will be cautious and That’s a very good thing .. That way you will care and treasure your current relationship to a greater extent .. you know how much you can give in , in a relationship and how much you can just save it for later ..
You learn to be self independent .. Marrying late means you had extra years in your hand to learn one or 2 tricks more for handling the curvy road of life Alone .. That way you can always assure yourself that even if you end up all alone , well you can take care of yourself !! and as a side fun fact you can have a bigger closet with only YOUR clothes , sexy , beautiful dresses , shoes , bags ( Boys , please think about your muses here :p ) for a Longer time without a pair of socks suddenly appearing from the side pocket of your tiny black dress , (pheww!!) .. As after marriage you will have to share the closet (like everything else :p:p)
Finally , my 2 cents ..Marriage is a game of lucks even after dating series of people in our lives ..it may happen we would still end up being single ..or worse we may end up with the wrong person and all this would just mean shit .. yes it can happen too .. but still we would have plenty to tell to our old spinster self or better would have a strong foundation to go back again and start everything from square one …
So .. Keep dating , Keep exploring but most importantly never stop taking Chances thinking your are Old now (C’mmon!!).. who knows .. right this moment while you are reading this and smiling to yourself.. your future love is also looking at you and oh yes .. smiling too 🙂